MILLIONAIRE DATING WEBSITES

If you have considered going to a dating website to find yourself a wealthy man, consider this first:

THE ODDS ARE GOOD THAT THE GOODS ARE ODD

Good looking men with money don’t usually have a hard time finding women to date.  As a result, they certainly aren’t going to need, much less pay someone to find a woman for them.

But there are also lots of millionaires who are busy making money and don’t have the time or inclination to go looking for a date. It is much easier to page through the profiles of dozens of beautiful women and pick out the ones they like than to hang out in bars hoping to find a woman.

If you’re lucky, you’ll meet one of those busy millionaires if you sign up at a “millionaires only” web dating service. If you’re unlucky, you’ll end up with the wealthy men who can’t get dates any other way.

Why can’t a millionaire easily get a date?

If a wealthy man can’t get a date it’s usually because there is something wrong with him, which is why he ends up at a dating website. But these online matchmakers also know something that no one likes to talk about…that a man with money will eventually get a woman no matter what his faults are, as long as she knows he has money. Which is why a dating website that advertises “millionaire bachelors” will always attract women, even if the guys are a bit flawed.

Be aware then, that a dating website catering to “millionaires” might have some or all of the following clientele:

1. Men who have something physically, socially, or mentally wrong with them
2. Married men
3. Men who aren’t rich

Men who have physical, social or mental problemsMen who have trouble getting dates might have unappealing characteristics. You have to ask yourself, “How much am I willing to tolerate in order to be around wealth?” Are you willing to date men who are:

• Physically unattractive
• Handicapped or crippled
• Hygienically unclean
• Into extreme fetishes or compulsions
• HIV positive or have herpes
• Mean or controlling
• 70, 80, or 90 (They don’t call it “Sugar Daddies” for nothing.)
• Sick
• Socially inept
• Mentally unstable
• Want submissive women

Lots of men looking for partners are married.

If you have no moral issues with dating married men and think it doesn’t matter as long as he is rich, you must be prepared to be a temporary toy in his life. The fun is over when:

• He gets bored
• His wife finds out
• You become demanding
• You get tired of spending most of your time alone
• You frequently have to drop any plans you had for a last minute rendezvous with him
• It’s not as exciting as you thought it would be

Life with a married man is not all fun and games.  He is often not available, but he expects you to be ready and waiting when he does have time for you.

He plans on spending the holidays with his family and may not have time to get away to see you, but don’t think of flying home to see your family.  He wants you available “just in case.” Many a lonely night will be spend waiting “just in case.”

If you don’t like it, just remember: his money, his rules.

You’re making a mistake if you believe he’s going to leave his wife for you.

Married men who secretly date other women rarely leave their wives. If they were going to do it, they would have done it already, so they wouldn’t have to sneak around. No matter how many times he tells you he loves you, and that you just have to be patient and give him some time, he isn’t going to leave his wife. You will discover too late that there will never be a good time for him to leave her.

He will have dozens of excuses:

• Wait until the kids are out of the house
• Wait until his finances are in order, so he doesn’t have to give her half of his fortune
• Wait until his sick wife is feeling better

Wait, wait, wait. On and on the excuses will come.

Don’t start with a married man and you won’t have to regret ending it. Remember, the more of your youthful years you give to a married man, the fewer years remain to find someone that is yours.

Are you thinking that dating a rich man would be worth it, even if you eventually break up? You may have acquired a few expensive things, but you are older, have a reputation for dating married men and for being a gold digger, who is willing to put up with anything for money. I can’t imagine any scenario where that is a good idea.

Unless he is putting thousands of dollars in an account for you to get yourself out of town and start over somewhere else, it is not worth the risk. You certainly aren’t going to easily find another rich man. Rich men don’t usually like dating other rich men’s discarded goods, especially women with negative reputations.

He could be lying about his wealth

If you have the looks and the stomach for unusual men, you still have to deal with the fact that many of the men who sign up with dating websites and matchmaking services, may not be wealthy.

Remember the show, “Who Wants to Marry a Millionaire?” The lucky girl who won couldn’t stomach the guy for even their short “honeymoon.”  They slept in separate rooms and she annulled the marriage as soon as she got back to town.  Apparently his million wasn’t enough to entice her to stick around.

Even if the dating service claims to check out the background of the men who apply, IRS forms can be faked as well as bank statements and paychecks. In other words, there is no guarantee that he is who he says he is.

How much money makes a man “wealthy?”
Do you want a guy with a private jet who has homes in several countries, or will you settle for someone who has a great job, a house and vacations in wonderful places? Do you want your jewelry from Tiffany’s and Cartier or will diamonds from the local jeweler suffice?

For some women, a wealthy man is anyone who has a job and isn’t asking her to pay for dinner. For others, their idea of a wealthy man is someone on the Forbes list of the wealthiest men in the world.

If this is you, you are not likely to find him through a dating website. That man meets women all the time without help.

If you think you can tolerate anything as long as a man has money, a dating service advertising WealthyLove.com might be an option for you.

However, your looks are important. Photos are used as introductions. You won’t be picked out of a line up of eager faces because of your personality. Your looks are what you are selling.

If a dating service is not for you, you’ll need an alternative method of finding a millionaire. Looking for ideas on the internet about where to find wealthy men, you’ll discover such suggestions as meeting a rich man by borrowing a pedigree dog and walking it in wealthy neighborhoods. Silly idea.

After you spend a couple of days traversing up and down the street, the only thing you’re likely to get is arrested. Either the neighbors are going to report a strange woman canvassing the street day after day, or they’re going to assume you’re a hooker.

As much as you’d like to believe it, wealthy men are not hanging out on the street waiting to meet women. They don’t judge women by the dogs they walk, and they don’t like women who pretend to be something they are not.

So how do you meet decent rich men? The simple answer is: go where they are.

Millionaire Matchmaker

I have discovered a guilty pleasure.Lunchtime ITV2: The Millionaire Matchmaker. This show features 'expert' matchmaker Patti Stanger, a woman whose 50-year-old face seems to be miraculously frozen at 30, who runs the 'Millionaire's Club'- a Los Angeles-based dating service which matches (predominantly) male millionaires to the girls of their dreams. After meeting the men and discovering their likes and dislikes (the latter, unsurprisingly, being the significantly longer list), Patti and her team interview women to find the closest compatible match. The millionaire then partakes in a 'mixer', where the best matched (read: best looking) women all come together in a bar, apparently falling over themselves to speak to the middle-aged millionaires. Following this, the millionaire chooses one 'lucky' woman to take out on a date, which he usually uses as a chance to showcase his wealth to the woman and the public, after which the couple decide whether they would like to see each other again.

As strange as it is compelling, the show may as well be subtitled "Feminism? What's feminism?" The more episodes I watch, the worse it seems to get. Patti, a notorious figure for feminists, seems to value superficiality and traditional gender roles above all else. In the initial interviews with the men, Patti asks them who their celebrity crush is, what hair colour they prefer in women and their racial preferences. The responses range from marginally concerning to downright depressing. One particularly chauvinistic millionaire announces he wants a woman with no career aspirations so she can follow him around the world at the drop of a hat when he needed to travel for business. Another man, aged 58, announces he wants children and would therefore require a woman of childbearing age, "preferably in her twenties". Let's not mince words here: what these men are after is a trophy wife. Invariably, men come on and ask for intelligent women. One requests someone who is educated to Masters level and not below, but when it comes to the mixer he chooses the best looking woman over a roomful of intelligent, thoughtful women with PhDs.

This is nothing compared to the 'screening process', however. Despite the men's best efforts to be the most sexist and misogynistic people on the show, they fail miserably in comparison to Patti. The poor, unsuspecting women are brought into Patti's office in groups of three to be judged by Patti and her team. What follows is a rigorous, acrid and vicious physical assessment. If you have red hair, you're unfortunately dismissed immediately. If you're not wearing a tight-fitting cocktail dress, you are informed you have no style and are ordered to change. One woman, visibly older than her counterparts, is told she looks older than she claims and ordered to go and get her driving license to prove her age. If Patti disapproves of an outfit or hairstyle choice, the woman in question is threatened with exclusion from the mixer, unless she overhauls her appearance. And, even more depressingly, the women comply: arriving at the mixer plucked and preened to within an inch of their lives. Patti's word is law and, as Patti isn't usually on the side of the women, this doesn't usually work out well for them...

She herself objectifies the women and treats them as sex objects, even before the women get in front of the millionaires

Patti seems to be genuinely bemused by women who have careers and goals, despite the fact that she is a career woman herself. One woman, for example, is a nurse, but when she dates one of the millionaires Patti is shocked she wants to continue doing her work. "But... you're a millionaire!" she utters, looking from one to the other, in uncomprehending disbelief. A career and a rich partner? Unthinkable.

Her assessment of the (few) female millionaires is particularly vicious. One of the women runs a pole dancing club, and her hair extensions and tattoos cause Patti much concern. She is apparently nowhere near 'feminine' enough to get a 'nice' man, and it is no wonder she's been divorced three times because, according to Patti, looking like that means she's never going to attract 'husband material'. She is then forced to change into a dress she doesn't like and have her hair redone and curled to look more 'girly', but dares to defy Patti's demands and turns up to the mixer in her own clothes. Patti is displeased, to say the least. "Why would you do that?" she asks. "Why would you want to look so... masculine?" God forbid this woman might actually be happywith herself and how she looks. It's apparently unthinkable that she might want to be with a man who liked her for herself, who she can be genuine with and wouldn't have to hide herself from.

I find this idea of this particular woman looking 'masculine' particularly interesting because, actually, she couldn't look any further from it. Blonde, waist-length hair; a penchant for pink, flouncy dresses; sky high stiletto heels. But it is the way she conducts herself and her behaviour that apparently makes her masculine, according to Patti. This woman is independent and loud. She knows what she wants and goes for it. She is a self-made millionaire with a string of 'toy boys' and ex-husbands. In Patti's mind, this is the story of a man, not a woman. Someone with this background couldn't possibly be 'feminine'. Instead of being seen as a confident woman, she is viewed as 'like a man'.

The women Patti likes seem quiet, dependent and passive. They let the men take over planning the dates and go along with whatever they ask. One woman is subjected to helping her millionaire date with his work, moving furniture from people's houses, in stiletto heels. Hardly ideal footwear, but she does it, no questions asked, because it's the man who's in control and this is how Patti wants it. Indeed, one of her 'club rules' is that the man plans the dates, so men have the authority, while women are to remain voiceless, powerless and subdued.

There is a complete lack of empathy towards women throughout this show. Although Patti does rap the knuckles of the men when they mistreat their dates (usually if they drop hints at sex throughout the first date or subject them to some horrific date activity), it's nothing compared with how she treats the women. They are told, outright, in front of the other women and the cameras that they are "ugly". Patti's assessment, as with the men, is purely superficial. Although she shows mild interest when a woman has a notable career or hobby, this actually wouldn't matter if she was ugly because she wouldn't have a hope in Patti's world.

Patti is like an extension of the misogynistic men she is hired by. She herself objectifies the women and treats them as sex objects, even before they get in front of the millionaires. It says a lot that the men have to pay to join Patti's club while women can join for free if they're good looking enough. If they had insecurities before meeting Patti, they surely will now. No blemish of supposed flaw is unremarked upon and any hint that the women don't completely coincide with Patti's rigid and regimented (and somewhat impossible) heights of femininity and beauty leads to them being chastised. These are framed as disgusting impairments that will repel men. Perfection is everything and anything less than that means you'll be alone and miserable forever.

It's all very well laughing about the almost unbelievable sexism on the show, but this is actually quite troubling because it relates to wider cultural issues about body-only sexual objectification of women and hegemonic patriarchy

The fact of the matter is that the men never actually get to see the women who Patti has dismissed. Who knows, if they had been allowed to attend the screening process, they might not actually have noticed those apparently glaring flaws and, if they had, perhaps it wouldn't be the be-all-and-end-all. Patti, as a woman under public scrutiny herself, could sympathise with the women on the show. Indeed, she's often submitted to acidic physical judgements regarding what she wears and how old she looks. You might think this would make her more empathetic but, if anything, it makes her a harsher and more vicious judge. Despite Patti's experiences of knowing what it's like to be insulted for insignificant details, like wearing the wrong nail polish (shock, horror), she doesn't stand in solidarity with her gender. She doesn't fight for the men to stop being so stoically superficial. What she does is altogether more infuriating and depressing: she continues to foreground female appearance above any other characteristic. "Are you in the early stages of obesity?" she asks.

It's all very well laughing about the almost unbelievable sexism on the show, but it is actually quite troubling because it relates to wider cultural issues about body-only sexual objectification of women and hegemonic patriarchy. When a 58 year old millionaire announces he wants someone "size zero... up to size three", it places the women under immense pressure to conform to these norms. The pressure to be as thin as possible is just one of many burdens placed on women nowadays; we have to deal with insults about pregnant bodies, the quest for physical perfection, slut-shaming and the pressures of motherhood(to name just a few issues). And that's not even going into career inequalities, money inequalities, parenting inequalities, housekeeping inequalities... where does it ever end!? Women need to unite against all this female hatred. We must fight the patriarchy!

Patti's attitudes to the women on the show are far more damaging and dangerous than they are entertaining. Her violent criticism of women for petty and insignificant things like hairstyles or a choice of outfit are unceremoniously undoing the achievements of feminism and feminist movements. The women on the show are so rarely fleshed out with identities of their own outside of their features, style and physique; they are encouraged into traditionally exploitative roles of dependence and submission.

What does this all this say to the modern woman about actually being a woman? It's time for some major changes and I don't mean for our hairstyles.

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1. A smiling Patti Stanger wearing a white fitted suit and holding a gold bow and arrow. Two groups of three, appearing to be split along gender lines, stand behind her. The female presenting group (left) are dressed in figure hugging clothing and posing in a stereotypically sassy and somewhat contorted way, with one member looking back at the other group with her hand on her hip and another leaning forward towards them. The male presenting group also pose (though arguably more subtly). One member is wearing smart-casual attire while holding a mobile phone, one wears a suit and another wears shades and a leather jacket. White background. This is taken from the cover for the DVD for Season one of Millionaire Matchmaker and has the words "MONEY CAN [underlined in red] BUY YOU LOVE" in black, "THE MILLIONAIRE [gold letters] MATCHMAKER" (in black) and "SEASON 1" (in black) at the top.

2. Screenshot of Patti and the candidate who turned up at the mixer in her own clothes (discussed in the article). They are both sitting on a pink and gold sofa with one leg crossed over the other and both hands clasped over the top leg. The woman on the left is smiling, while Patti looks more serious.

So I Dated a Millionaire

You could say the subject came up naturally. The bill had come and he offered to pay. It was our first date; he’d already said he wanted a second one. I suggested we go Dutch. “Because I may not be able to pick up the tab next time.”

“I’m used to paying,” he said, to which I got all feminist-feisty: “Like, for all your dates?” “No,” he explained, “like whenever I go out.” I must have look perplexed. “Let me put it this way,” he said, “I made sixty thousand dollars last month.”

Last month.

Best year I ever had, I made around seventy thousand. That was seven years ago, before I had my child. I’ve been poor ever since.

I smiled, and without further delay, removed my debit card from the table.

It would have been fine if we’d left it at that, but then he added, “I’m a millionaire.”

The bar was loud with voices and music. “What?” I asked.

“Several times over, actually.” He said this with a bit of a stutter, which made him seem embarrassed of his status. Gave him that Colin Firth vibe, the stutter did. I nodded, said hmm, and then got up to use the restroom. Of course, once in the restroom, my mind reeled with the possibilities of what dating a millionaire could mean. Like a lack of poverty, for one thing.

I came out of the bathroom and sat down on the hard bench next to him. We’d been sitting side by side so that I could hear him above the din. “Is it weird that I told you?” he asked. “A bit, yeah,” I said. “I wish that you never told me, even if I knew you for the rest of my life.”

When I arrived at the bar, 45 minutes late, he was dripping wet and laughing about it. I asked if he’d been caught in the rain. No, he was dripping sweat! He’d been running late—literally. He’d gone the wrong direction from the train, had to run so he wouldn’t miss me, and worked up a sweat running that long distance in his leather jacket.

He didn’t own a car (never learned to drive), didn’t own a mobile phone, smart or otherwise, and neglected to print the map before leaving his condo in the Pearl. No mobile phone? Was he an eccentric millionaire to boot?

I explained that, upon leaving the bar, he would need to go down the hill, stay on that road, and he’d hit the train stop. We parted ways.

At the intersection, I saw him walking up the hill. “You’re going the wrong way!” I yelled, wondering, Eccentric or just dumb? He turned around, walking toward my car and thus downhill. Instead of stopping or even saying another word in passing, he walked behind my car and carried on. I told myself he was too flustered or embarrassed to make small talk.

I told myself that it was a good sign he’d laughed at himself so heartily. Laughs easily; that’s a good trait. Ability to laugh at self; very important trait. He was fit, not unattractive at all, once sang in a punk rock band, and was left leaning politically. I had some doubts, but felt positive he was worth a second date. So what if he had a nervous tic.

The first date had gone well enough, and we’d even had our first argument. We were discussing his profile page on the dating site where we’d “met.” He asked my thoughts on it, so I told him I found the opening sentence off-putting. It said, “A writer and an artist” with the disclaimer, “financially secure.” He defended himself by saying he thought women our age want men who are financially stable.

Our age or not, I told him that financial stability wasn’t so important. If you love someone, you’re hard pressed to stop loving them, no matter what. They can be married, they can be jerks, they can be poor, but if you love them, you love them. He argued his point again, and I argued mine some more. I told him I thought his profile was sending a specific message to a certain kind of woman—the kind who find money important. He was leveraging his financial status—and I’m the kind of woman who finds that off-putting.

And this was, mind you, well before the bill had arrived. I ended the argument by saying we didn’t need to agree.

Several dates later, I still found him odd but he seemed kind, too. I could sense some rigidity, a resistance to spontaneity, which I noted. Things progressed, and after a kiss, he took down his profile. I found that upstanding, not off-putting.

When I put my back out, he offered his assistance.

He let me know he was appreciative of my time by saying so.

Things progressed further, but I was still reticent. He was not a bad lover. He did not have bad breath. He was not stingy with his money . . .  At one point, he told me to pick out something from a catalog, from which he’d picked out another leather jacket for himself. He had at least three already, and though he lived in the Pearl, a shopping Mecca, he liked the jacket in this catalog and wanted to know if I wanted the leather jacket shown on the female model. I didn’t want the leather jacket. A tiny bit miffed, he asked what else I’d like. (Christmas was fast approaching, you see, and I’d already bought his gift.) I settled on a skirt, but within the hour, he tossed the catalog into the recycling bin in a downer of a huff, saying, “I don’t need another leather jacket. I have to save for the loft. I’ll get you something else.”

Saving for the loft meant selling stocks to pay cash for an overpriced condo in the top of a building in the Pearl. He’d pointed it out on the eve of our second date. It didn’t impress me, and in fact was a huge turn-off. He and his now-deceased partner (yes, the eccentric millionaire was a widower) had always loved Portland, he said, so he moved here when she died. They had never been beyond the Pearl District, a village of condos inhabited by rich people and high-end retail outlets and very little of the original cosmology of what I think of as Portland. But I try not to be too picky these days. I try to stay open minded, give a lot of leeway for the benefit of the doubt.

Soon after the catalog incident, we went to a holiday party together. He was not the life thereof, to say the least. So, despite his good qualities, he had that rigidity I mentioned (insisting we walk on a certain side of the street or turn right at this block not that one, for example), but he also wasn’t any fun (hadn’t laughed since the night of the first date) and, most importantly, he placed an inordinate importance on the b.j.

I’ll spare you the details (Mom, and others with an easily offended palette when it’s me talking), but suffice to say that the b.j. request occurred three out of four times.

The last time, he’d gone down “there.” This was after the un-fun party, and I was already calculating my relationship exit, but I managed to give in and find enjoyment in the moment. Then he was moving on to what we’ll call Step Two.

Now, back up to the previous encounter wherein the b.j. request came up. I responded by saying, “I’m feeling like I’d rather be more intimate.”

The moment got awkward, when I added, “Besides, when you’re the one on the bottom, it’s not much live giving one. It’s more like receiving one.” To be on top was his preference, citing potential penile withering otherwise.

He responded huffily. “We’re going to talk the semantics of it?” He found it weird, my approach at a conversation on the topic.

Fast-forward to the next (i.e. last encounter) with Step Two in the works, wherein I said I wasn’t currently prepared in terms of birth control. To which he said our choices were two: “Either you give me a blow job or we go to sleep.”

Really?

“Those are the options?” I said.

He rolled over with a pout. “I should think it would be a regular part of any relationship.”

It was close to midnight. I was without my car, having taken the bus to his side of the river, and wanted nothing more than to get up and leave. I didn’t run out, however. I tried communication: “A blow job is what you ask a prostitute for,” I began. He stopped me there. “That’s ridiculous! I’ve never treated you like a prostitute.”

“I didn’t say you did.”

Attempting intimacy one last time, I said, “It’s a lot more fun when it happens organically, rather than as a request . . .”

He put on his sleeping shorts, as he called them. This felt like a cue. “Putting on your sleeping shorts?” I said. “Do they make you fall asleep?”

“No,” he answered in all seriousness, “they contain everything and I can sleep more comfortably with them on.”

I left as soon as possible the next morning, but not before he insisted on showing me photos of the loft. Neither of us contacted the other for three days, and then I wrote a good-bye email.

“The gift is for you,” I wrote. I’d left his Christmas gift at his place. A heavy, silver-wrapped box containing my top five comedic books of all time. Millionaire boyfriend needed to lighten up.

I got a reply, but no gift. He had warned me that if I didn’t tell him what I wanted, I’d end up with a gift card. “Powell’s Books?” he’d suggested. “I still have a gift card from last year,” I’d said. “A coffee-maker like mine?” he’d offered. “It’s supposed to be the best.” “I like my little espresso maker,” I’d replied. I wasn’t trying to be difficult, and I’d even dropped what I thought was one very huge hint: “I’m out of my favorite lotion.” But that didn’t connect for him, somehow. And that bottle of Margeaux at the French restaurant? That was like a gift anyway. What I really wanted—a new roof on my house and medical insurance—they were too much to ask for. Walking away with my principles intact? That’s the gift that keeps on giving, and I have only myself to thank for that.

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In the real world, the average Joe watches the Red Sox-Yankees game from the bleachers while the affluent mingle in the corporate boxes. Everyday Eddie deals with parking and public restrooms during his day at the beach, yet the mega-rich drop their keys with the valet and settle into a reserved lounge chair at a private club.

Online, the waters are parting too.

Though it once seemed that the Web was the last place where status didn’t matter, the elite are now looking for a comfortable place to mingle with like-minded people. They’re leaving Facebook and LinkedIn to the riffraff.

In Depth: Social Networking Sites for High Society

“It’s taken a while for wealthy consumers to start using networking sites, mostly due to privacy issues and concerns,” says Milton Pedraza, CEO of the Luxury Institute, a New York-based research company that focuses on high-net-worth individuals.

“But now they want to leverage all those social-networking advantages. Before, they had the opportunity to network at annual international meetings, but now they can connect to like-minded people in Dubai or anywhere in the world in an instant.”

According to a January survey by the Luxury Institute, wealthy-consumer participation in online social networks is on the rise. Of the 805 people surveyed (each with a minimum gross annual income of $150,000) in 2008, 60% of respondents said they participate in a social network, up from 27% in 2007.

Participation levels for the wealthy in leading social networks were 16% for MySpace, 13% for LinkedIn and 11% for Facebook. On average, a wealthy person has membership in 2.8 social networks with an average of 110 connections. Unfortunately, according to Pedraza, too many invites, “pokes” and unrequited connections, coupled with the leaks in privacy, make exclusive sites more alluring.

A new breed of social site

The wealthy are instead heading to a new crop of ultra-exclusive social networks that have blossomed over the past few years, such as WealthyLove.com, 

Some networks come with strict invite-only policies and a rigorous application process based on education, job title, connections and lots of virtual velvet rope. Others, such as Squa.re and Quintessentially, are more lenient, requiring simply an invite from any existing member.

Will it work? 

“People are unhappy with the free-for-all at LinkedIn and Facebook and MySpace. They are looking for a specialized group to mingle with, and paying a fee weeds out the ones who don’t belong,” says Chris Curtis, director of Web Business Ownership LLC, a Delaware-based Internet consulting company.

“Exclusive sites are becoming more prevalent because not everyone is willing to network with people they don’t know,” she adds. “It provides a more formal type of introduction within a closed circle. [The networks] have staying power, but only if they listen to the needs of the society that they are creating.”

But do the rich and successful have time to be searching the Web and schmoozing? “If it’s worth their time, yes,” says Pedraza. “I know people who are building a yacht, and peer-to-peer insight about where to go and who to work with is the sweet spot.”

Getting to that spot, however, is the challenge. If you want to be inside these clubs, aim for one of the more lenient ones that require an easy-to-find invite where all members have invite powers. Choose carefully, though, because just like in high school, once everyone can join the cool club, it’s no longer cool. The alternative is to pay the monthly $70 dues to join a site such as WealthyLove.com.

But if you’re looking for an invite from the more exclusive groups, you simply have to know someone who matters.

“If you don’t know anyone in the group, maybe it’s not quite right for you,” says Wachtmeister.

Tips about Locating a Rich Guy On A Millionaire Dating Website.

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Where to Meet a Houston Millionaire

Of all the cities in all the countries in all the world, Houston is attracting the most millionaires. Houston's millionaire population swelled 9.6% in just one year, according to Forbes. There are now 96,700 millionaires living in our city.

Of course, the majority are dudes. So ladies and gay men, if you're looking to get in on that seven-figure action, you're in the right spot. But where are all these millionaires hiding?

Where the Oil Rigs Are
Of course, the main source of these millionaires is oil. They're practically dripping in it. But when the moguls go out to play, they don't go just anywhere. It has to end in "Club."

Try the Petroleum Club, located on the 43rd floor of the ExxonMobil building. Yes, it's invitation only, but if you can sneak past the receptionist, you'll find plenty of millionaires (albeit, many will be geriatric).

Also good: The Houston Club, which throws an event described as "heavyweight black tie boxing." We imagine there's a lot of monocle-removing and glove-slapping involved. And if you're kicked out of the Clubs, there's always Marfreless. Slip a millionaire your number while his hooker's in the bathroom.

Where You're Too Poor to Dine

But you're not too poor to loiter, right? Local matchmaker Nina Friedman has plenty of experience picking up rich men for her clients. She frequents fancy restaurants near the Galleria, like Sullivan's. "I just walk up to a man who's well dressed and doesn't have a ring on his finger and ask him if he's married," she says.

Friedman doesn't approve of such blatant golddiggery as we're proposing here. "I don't think that's what it's about," she says. But her tactic could work for you. Strap on something fancy, head to the restaurant bar and quietly order a water. When you meet the millionaire of your dreams, he'll be impressed that you drink vodka on the rocks.

Where You'll Lie About How You Met
The Internet is a wonderful place to meet men. Friedman uses Craigslist frequently to corral prospective matches. "People freak out that that's a tool I use, but my perspective is you have to cast your net everywhere," she said. It worked for Friedman: She met her husband when he responded to her Craigslist ad, and he's the director of pediatric cardiology fellowships at Texas Children's Hospital.

Lots of Web sites exist to help you find your old man moneybags. Check out WealthyLove.com, where Charlie Sheen held an account for a while.

Where You Won't Get Oil-Slicked
Has the thought of oil-doused porpoises forever turned you off to seven-figured supermajors? Then you should probably opt for a doctor.

Short of becoming a nurse, you have a few options. "You'd need to hang out where doctors hang out," said matchmaker Friedman. Cancer, heart disease, diabetes -- hit up all the ailing body part fundraisers.

Friedman also suggests meeting young docs under less medical circumstances. "Younger doctors are active," she said. "They're probably running at Memorial Park."

If you are neither a nurse nor a benefit-goer nor an athlete, hit up the bars near the Medical Center around 6 a.m., when many docs end their shifts and are probably eager to see women in something besides hospital gowns.

How to Date Older Men with Millionaire Matchmaker

Looking for a truly mature partner who is successful, rich, and elder than you? Here are some tips for you dating older men who are more than mature and successful in their business. Many older men tend to be more confident, more successful and more thoughtful than their younger counterparts, and they know how to treat a woman well. But, how to date those rich older men?
The elderly tend to be more reserved in public, but more demonstrative in private. In other words, if your man did not want to kiss you at every street corner, don’t care about that. Generally, older men seldom demonstrate  affection in public – holding Your Hand, or embracing gently. On the other hand, most of them are affectionate in the private, they are confident and they know how to show their feelings correctly and treat you like a lady.
While young men may be flattered when you have some good words for them, but elder men may not. For them, you need to show yourself as an independent woman. You have your own life, and you have your own interesting things, and you have your own friends circle, and you have your everything independent so that you don’t need to be baby-sitted by them.
Never make your relationship mixed with sex. If you have a millionaire match who is much older than yourself, you will soon see a difference in your sex life. Tips for dating older men: Older men are looking for companionship first, sex is not the most important thing for them. If you can’t understand this, you will have troubles. Relaxing, sharing interesting things would be great for the companion life. However, this doesn’t mean that sex is not important in their lives. Sometimes it should be great too. Many of the elder wealthy guys have learned a lot in their past experiences, and they may spend more time on satisfying their partners. The only thing is sex is not the most important part in their lives.
Date old men is a Gold Diggers Date? You may have read some tips for dating older men in some other places that the relationship with an older man is essentially a gold digger relationship. But that’s not the truth for all. Talked with many women who have relationships with elder men and discovered that the companionship is the most fantastic thing in their relationships. The successful, wealthy, elder men are confident, secure and comfortable with themselves.

With the above mentioned tips, you should be able to date a great gentleman who is older than you. Just go ahead and enjoy your successful, long-term relationship which will be fulfilling for both of you.

How to Capture a Single Millionaire Through Internet Dating

To capture a single millionaire, you have 2 choices: 1) Use your friends circle; 2) Use Internet dating. Everybody knows that it's much more efficient and effective to meet new people & friends with the help of Internet dating. That's the reason why Internet dating is becoming more and more popular.

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Get some quality photos. If you want to be succeeding among millions of singles worldwide, you need to stand out. Don't be rough. A great photo made by professional photographers may bring you 10 times more hits and contacts. If you are unsure of your photo, ask some friends. If you are ashamed to talk, let yahoo answer help. There are thousands of online daters, dating experts there everyday.

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Find a reputable millionaire dating service. If you don't know how, ask your friends or Google. Usually, the dating service recommended by friends is more credible to newbie. When you create your dating profile, don't forget what you did in the preparation stage. Your preparation work will help you create a more attractive dating profile.

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Search and contact verified members only. There are hundreds of thousands of members on every dating site. You should focus on the verified members. Generally speaking, verified members are more credible and more serious of dating. Of course, don't forget to make yourself verified too, as others are looking for the same.

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Write an impressive ice-breaker. If you are interested in someone, don't be in a hurry to send out the first message. Read the profile once again carefully and find what he/she likes. If you are complete sure this is the right person, calm down to write something impressive in your first message. If you need help on how to write an impressive ice-breaker, try to Google some millionaire dating tips. A good start is half the job down.

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Be honest and serious in your communication. If you get a response, congratulations, your communication is started. Now it's the time for you to show your communication skills. Try to make the communication happy, pleasant and nature. Never show your interest in money or wealth, although that's your final goal.

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Last by least, if you meet any dating problems, don't always rely on yourself.Try to talk with others to get more fresh ideas, as two heads are better than one. If you don't want to share with your friends, some millionaire dating advice may be helpful to you.

The Millionaire Matchmaker’s Top Tips to Finding True Love Online

Photographer Randee St. Nicholas

Last week, Patti Stanger, The Millionaire Matchmaker host and author, came to New York City to talk about her sake company, Ty Ku. But this time of year can be especially difficult for singles looking to couple up, so TV’s most outspoken yenta also gave us her insider tricks to finding true love online.

1. “Your picture is the most important thing. Period.”

Stanger suggests you splurge on a professional photo if you can. Winning poses include the red-carpet twist for gals—”a little black dress always gets the guy,” she claims—and a straight-on, casual-fun, jeans-and-a-blazer (or button-down) look for fellas. “Stop putting those crazy pictures of you jumping out of planes or in a giant concert crowd; we can’t see you!” she says. If you’re tempted to put kids or pets in the picture: Don’t. “Even if it’s your niece, users will automatically assume you have kids. That isn’t necessarily a turn off, but this is about luring your mate.” As for Fido, Stanger advises, “If you really love animals, go to a nice dating site for pet lovers.” Lastly, crop out your best friend from your profile photo if that’s your favorite pic of you. “If he or she is hotter, you’re in trouble!”

2. “Give yourself a memorable name.”

Instead of just your name or initials, make your username descriptive. “Try something that says who you are with a little sexy note, that’s fun and flirty. But make sure you don’t put the word ‘sex’ in there. If you lead with that, you’re only going to find someone who is looking for something casual,” Stanger says.

3. “Use clear, but coded, language.”

Looking for marriage? “If you say it outright on your profile, people assume you’re a gold digger, or they get turned off,” Stanger explains. “Try, ‘I’m a one woman kind of guy,’ ’I want to grow old with my soul-mate,’ or ‘I want to open my heart and share my life with someone.’” Looking for something less committed? “Say ‘I’m just looking for fun,’” she continues. “It’s not fair to waste people’s time when they are looking for something serious.”

4. “Yes, it’s okay to lie about your age—the right way.”

“Everyone knows if you’re 50, you’ll say 45, because if you put 50 you won’t come up on a search for fortysomethings,” says Stanger. “It’s fine to lie about your age by up to five years. But, this is what you do: If you meet and have chemistry, by the second or third date say, ‘I need to tell you this one thing that might be a turn-off, but…’ and come clean. Anybody who is worth keeping won’t mind. Who knows, they might have a confession for you as well!” Where else can you fib? “Men lie about height, women lie about weight. Women know they need to take two inches off a man’s listed height, and men know to add about 15 pounds to a woman’s listed weight. Unless she’s Superwoman!”

5. “Message him first, especially if the site thinks you’re a match.”

Stanger strongly believes that more women should take advantage of reaching out to men through private messaging on dating sites, especially when the site indicates there might be chemistry between the two of you. If you’re not sure how to start, Stanger advises you refer to the site as a friend who introduced you. “Say, ‘The system says we’re a match, wink wink…’” she says. However, if you don’t get any response, go on to the next guy.

6. “Facebook-stalking will get you nowhere.”

You probably don’t want to do too much if any Googling before your dates, and Stanger says to skip Facebook and Twitter, because they reveal too much of a person’s casual side. “Everybody’s Facebook page has things they don’t want to be judged for! Maybe it’s smoking cigars with the guys, or maybe it’s before you lost 25 pounds.” She thinks too much pre-date research will unnecessarily stress you out. But, she often advises clients to do a quick perusal on LinkedIn to see if prospects are lying about basic information like employment.

7. ”Sign up for at least three sites.”

To make the most of your odds, Stanger suggests you play the numbers by going broad, then narrow. “The first should be WealthyLove.com. People who use pay sites like Match are serious about finding relationships. The second should be a niche site, such as J-Date, or MillionaireMatch. Then, third, sign up for a free site like OkCupid or Plenty of Fish.” With such a range, you’re likely to increase your odds of meeting more interesting people who will ultimately connect you to what you want.

8. “Don’t become addicted to finding love.”

True story: Stanger has had clients who lost their jobs over their addiction to checking their profiles and prospects while at work. She tells clients to reserve online dating as a special experience, by dimming the lights at home, uncorking a bottle of wine, and playing fun music. Stanger also cautions against only using the computer to find a match, and not working it through friends, at the gym, chance encounters…the list goes on. “The secret is to use as many methods available as possible to meet people,” she says.

9. “Be nice to everyone.”

Your mom probably said this too, and Stanger backs it up. “If you go on a date with someone and he or she turns out to be a total dud—or worse, downright obnoxious—they may have a friend for you! Good looking, successful, funny people hang out with similar types. The best way to meet a guy is through a referral; before you know it, you’re six degrees-ing it. Dating online opens up so many possibilities for offline.”

10. “Cheer up if you don’t have good luck.”

Stanger is relentlessly positive. “Don’t be depressed if the first few dates are bad. Don’t be upset if the wrong people are picking you. Just redo your profile to get better matches. The secret is to get out of your own way!”

Valuable Tips For Dating Successful People Online

All too often I hear girls tell me about how someone they meet isn’t what they wrote in their profile. Its the Internet and of course everyone knows you can’t believe everything you see – but then you come across this profile where everything just seem right and your heart gets the better of you… What do you do? You don’t want to pass up the opportunity to meet Mr. Right but he just seems too good to be true.

There are some basic ways to weed out the good from the bad. Of course experience is the best teacher, but hopefully these tips will save you a little heartbreak.

First, lets state the obvious. Most millionaires are going to be somewhat older and have lives and careers established. It’s just the fact of life – even if you earn an extremely good salary (6 figures) it still takes most people a while to accumulate wealth. Rock stars and entrepreneurs are excluded from rule, but just be aware that they are in the minority (and if he IS a rock star, then you could easily Google him).

So if a guy is young, single, and lots of free time, and claims to be a millionaire, he is either in the very small minority of millionaires or a fake.

Next, use Tineye: especially for members without verified photos, there is a tool called tineye that will search the web to find if the picture was ripped from another site. If your hot bodied millionaire has pics ripped from a surfing mag, chances are good he isn’t the guy you are going to meet.

If someone claims he owns a company, or is the CEO of such and such, it is a very simple matter these days to Google his name to find out if it is true.

If you are meeting someone for the first time, do so in a public place. Later if you do agree to meet him at his residence (which may or may not be possible depending on his relationship status!), ask for his address and Zillow it. This will not only give you an indication of the value of his property but also the neighborhood he is in.

The amount of money he spends on you is not necessarily a good indicator of his wealth. Many millionaires do not like to lavish gifts on their sugar babies right off the bat, although if he is asking you to get the check after a meal that is an indicator that its time to say adios. However, you should look at his demeanor – how does he fit in his skin, so to speak. Is he intelligent, articulate, comfortable in his surroundings? Most millionaires do NOT dress to the nines but rather most dress casually, but smartly. Little trinkets like a Rolex watch might be a giveaway but overdoing it is a sign of a fake. Ultimately there are people who are pros at faking wealth so in the end you have to look at their bank account to really know if they have what they say – which probably is never going to happen. But, if he is treating you good and he can show you the life, then does it really matter?