How to Meet, Date & Marry a Millionaire

Often people will ask me why I write so much about dating millionaires. The truth is, there is nothing better than falling in love with a solid, sane, down-to-earth guy that works hard and lives well. In fact, I would be very open to finding this sort of man myself! I truly believe that in the end, all we want is to be treated like a princess – no matter how much our prince has in his bank account. However, (as the saying goes) I feel I must “write what I know“ and truly believe that I have something NEW to say on the topic whereas a plethora of great articles on finding the perfect mate in terms of compatibility, astrology, etc. already exists. More importantly, given the explosion of online dating, it is not hard to land a date with a man who earns an honest living and can provide you with nothing but love and affection. But when it comes to dating the elusive millionaire, the game is so radically different that I am compelled to share my secrets from a unique perspective on how to crack the code. Not from a professional matchmaker’s point of view, but from a middle-class woman who has dated nearly two dozen millionaires over a lifetime that resulted in four wedding proposals and one seven-year marriage. With that said, I am more than happy to answer ANY dating questions and will share ALL great advice that I come across through direct or indirect experiences. In the meantime, here are a few quick tips for women wanting to meet a millionaire or two if for no other reason than to give dating this unique breed a try…

Manhunt Alone

The number one mistake single women make when hunting for men in bars is that they travel in packs… Bottom line is that men do not approach women in groups. This is particularly true of millionaires who are accustomed to not having to work hard to meet women. If you are looking to go out and meet a nice man, GO ALONE. This will increase your chances of meeting a man who is also there alone and looking to meet a confident woman. One word of caution though, be sure to make friends with the bartender and leave the bar by 11:00 pm, otherwise you could be mistaken for an escort!

Remember “The 20 Year Rule”

Unless you have the privilege of meeting a man of means while getting your degree at an Ivy League school, you will have to be ready to date older men if you want to marry a millionaire. For example, 40 year-old millionaires date 25 year old women; 50 year olds date 30 year olds, 60 year olds date 40 year olds, etc. (thanks to all of the youth drugs out there, there are more 60 year old men with six pack abs than ever before, so don’t write them off just yet!). However, do not be fooled into thinking at 50 you can bag a 40 year old man who is gorgeous, sane and worth 300 times more than you. Not impossible, but a tad bit difficult. This crowd is tough in that beauty and youth rule, so just make sure you set your sights on the right group of millionaires… The ones who are old enough to consider YOU a trophy.

Rethink Online Dating

Although a few millionaires are open to online dating, most wealthy men are accustomed to not having to work hard to meet women and are 100% OFFLINE. So if meeting a man of means is truly your ultimate goal, you are better off spending time frequenting their social habitats then combing through hundreds of online profiles trying to figure out who has money and who does not. More importantly, an estimated 80% of online daters lie on their profiles, so your chances of running into someone who is phony greatly increases online. My advice is to let marketplace economics filter out the men for you… If you spend time in a bar that charges $30 for a bottle of beer, chances are the men frequenting that watering hole will have a little more cash on hand than the average online dater.

Get a Zipcode Makeover

Once you have determined your intentions for marrying a millionaire are genuine (i.e. you are looking to FALL IN LOVE with someone who can *also* provide the financial freedom to pursue an artistic career, or you want to be a stay-at-home mother or love the idea of traveling the world with your husband, etc.) you need to make a serious life plan to find him. In short, if you want to hunt for lions, you need to move to Africa… Same thing goes for dating millionaires. So if you are trying to choose between living in a nice two-bedroom place in the suburbs or a crappy studio in the best part of town, always go for the BEST ZIPCODE. Where you live puts you in contact with more affluent people and more opportunities to meet the millionaire of your dreams.

Invoke Rich Spirits

When dating a wealthy man, limit your drink choices to those exclusively imbibed by the Gliterrati: Vodka, Scotch, Gin, Wine and Champagne. Any other alcoholic beverage is considered pedestrian. Ordering a Bud Light or a ‘Sex On the Beach’ at a four star restaurant is not only showcasing your lack of wealth, it is increasing your chances of being hit on by the busboy later that evening.

Avoid Counterfeit Chaos

There is no quicker way to lose the respect of a wealthy man than to admit or get busted carrying a counterfeit handbag. Although acceptable in casual dating, this is a big no-no among the upper echelon… In fact, they are boggled as to why anyone would pay $150 for a fake designer bag that only retails for $1,500 (please keep in mind that this is like the difference between spending 25 cents versus $1.00 on a loaf of bread to us).  Bottom line? Toss out your fakes, save your pennies, go to a high-end consignment store and invest in one fabulous GENUINE designer evening bag that goes with everything.

Why Mummies Know Best

A great way to network with millionaires is to become a member of a museum. If you live in a small town, the museum you join should be relatively easy to pick out, but you must donate at a level that gets you on the invitation list for all of the fundraisers and parties. If you live in a big city, research which museum has the best benefits for your budget… The more members-only previews, exhibitions, galas, cocktail parties and evening events, the better.

The Greens Are Always Greener

If you are looking to take up just one hobby to meet and network with wealthy men, nothing compares to GOLF. Not only is the game fun to learn and perfectly suited for nearly any woman’s level of physical activity, golf is a wonderful way to meet interesting people and the only sport that can be played over a lifetime. Invest in a couple of golf lessons at your local country club and see if you enjoy the game. If not, no worries. If yes, welcome to the addiction. Better yet, wait until you reveal your love of the game on a first date, and see the reaction on HIS face to the possibility of being able to sleep next to his golf partner.

Go Lobby Bar Hunting

Another great way to meet millionaires is to frequent high-end hotel lobby bars. The hotel’s exorbitant drink prices will keep most locals away, however, local professionals will frequent the establishment in search of networking opportunities. The best night to go out in big cities is Thursday in that many road warriors are celebrating the end of a grueling week and flying back home on Friday. WARNING: At least a third of lobby bar prospects are already married so look for a tan line or ring indent before accepting an invitation from someone to buy you a drink. Your goal is to find the one out of three that is still single, or better yet, recently divorced and ready to replace the ex-wife ASAP.

HOW TO KEEP A MILLIONAIRE HAPPY

Marrying a millionaire has its pluses. You have the lifestyle of the rich and famous. You have no worries about debts, no stresses of a job. But there are also some negative issues that come with a man with money.

What If You Don’t Love Him?There is an saying that a woman can fall in love with a rich man as easily as a poor one. True. But what do you do if you don’t love the millionaire who wants you? Do you date him anyway? Do you marry him? It happens all the time. Women give up love in exchange for money. Some women are comfortable with this. It’s a bargain they gladly make for the privilege of being rich.

If money is your love, then don’t expect love with your money. If by chance love and money come together with one man, you are a lucky girl.

An affair is not the answer

The problem comes when you find another guy that you do love, but don’t want to give up the money.Many women in this position think that they will just have a quiet affair. When your millionaire is busy at work or out of town, you decide to take the opportunity to see your love interest. No one will know. No one gets hurt. Right?

Not to be the bearer of bad news, but this is a bad idea.

Your millionaire has lots of friends in lots of places. He has friends you don’t even know about. If you try to sneak around with your love interest, the neighbors, the mailman, the doorman, even the paperboy or the UPS man might see you and say something to your rich guy. You never know who’s watching.

If you go to a hotel or the home of your love interest, there is always the chance that someone will see you together. If you go to an out of the way restaurant, out of town or even out of the country with him, you’re still bound to get caught.

Ask yourself, how many times have you been someplace unusual and unexpectedly run into someone you knew. Too often. The quickest way to get dumped by a rich man is to get caught with another man.

“Men play the game, women know the score.”

Roger Woddis

Millionaires Cheat

Now that you’ve resigned yourself to being faithful, he’ll probably cheat on you. It’s the old double standard. He expects you to be faithful to him, but he will most likely cheat on you. If you don’t believe this, you don’t know much about men and very little about men with money.

Men with money and status want it all. They want their fancy cars and expensive toys. They want to feel important and admired. They love attention, and they love it from beautiful women. And as you know, there is no shortage of women who are willing to give a rich man some attention.

“God gave men both a penis and a brain,
but unfortunately not enough blood supply to run both at the same time.”

Robin Williams

The temptation for a rich man to cheat is always present.

Wherever a rich man goes, there is some woman hoping to replace you and she is going to try her cutest, sweetest, most seductive best to nab his attention.

Even if he is not looking for someone new, eventually the sex with you is going to be the same, and the excitement for what men call “strange” sex will grow. ( “strange sex” does not mean weird sex, but sex with a new partner.)

His need for something different doesn’t necessarily mean that you are history.

He may genuinely care for you, but that affection is compartmentalized, not thought about when it comes to sex. He may want his occasional “strange sex” in addition to you, so you need to be willing to put up with those terms without a scene, without resentment, without attitude. Ask yourself if you’re capable of that.

If you give up love for money, you have to keep your heart to yourself.

There’s always a willing womanBe aware that there are many women who have no problem putting up with a cheating man if he has enough money. If you make a scene and cause a big enough problem in his life, he can just replace you with the next woman in line. Don’t kid yourself into believing that no one can replace you.

There is always someone younger, more eager to please, more sexually adventuresome and more willing to do anything to be with a rich man. Eventually he will take the bait.